I am sad to read in today's Guardian that Alice Miller has died. Miller was the author of books that explored and explained the traumas of childhood and children, in ways that took their side against "toxic" parents. As a poet whose early work explored child abuse, and the traumas of infancy and youth - and as a person who was in psychoanalysis for seven years in my twenties - I can only say that Miller's influential quarrel with Freud was significant. However, some of her claims and extreme positions were themselves traumatic. It will be important to sort out her legacy, now that she is gone.