Within minutes of posting a message about a poetry issue in the UK, I was inundated with nasty personal messages. One poet said she was "disgusted" by me. Goodness, and I was only recommending we try and get along. Apparently, poets are not immune to the dangerous attractions of instant messaging and the Internet. But, as I have said before, we need to be good to each other, and to try to reign in the ad hominem attacks. I can only imagine what it would be like to be one of the offenders in this whole PoSoc debacle, if a mere bystander can get so spammed and reviled. This is why I have removed the earlier posts on the matter from this week. I have no wish to continue being a part of this. There are enough parties on both sides to handle it at this stage.
A poem for my mother, July 15 When she was dying And I was in a different country I dreamt I was there with her Flying over the ocean very quickly, And arriving in the room like a dream And I was a dream, but the meaning was more Than a dream has – it was a moving over time And land, over water, to get love across Fast enough, to be there, before she died, To lean over the small, huddled figure, In the dark, and without bothering her Even with apologies, and be a kiss in the air, A dream of a kiss, or even less, the thought of one, And when I woke, none of this had happened, She was still far distant, and we had not spoken.
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You really need to take a leaf out of my my book and avoid other poets like the proverbial plague. I know from bitter personal experience that a significant minority of them are seriously unbalanced!
Best wishes from Simon
Why is someone saying they're disgusted by you anything other than tit for tat? I'm not disgusted by you but be fair.
Jessica, Dennis and Simon - this is, sad to say, a very important and difficult issue, which a lot of reasonable, fair-minded people have weighed in on. It's not a spat where everyone has lost control and it's not a witch-hunt. It's very easy to sit back and say, "Oh, let's avoid all the nonsense or laugh at the bickering poets", but I'm afraid to say it's not the reasonable or fair response. Fortunately, there are some very reliable and decent people working very hard - on both the inside and outside - to get this mess sorted out.
Spoken like a true gentleman--let the rabble drag themselves even deeper into the morass!
Not sure that's a material distinction, Todd. Anyone saying they're disgusted with you necessarily means they're disgusted with something you've done or said, ie. your behaviour. They don't literally mean they're disgusted by, say, your entire being or your state of existence - that would be rather odd!
So the way I see it, you said you were disgusted by a collective behaviour and someone has retorted and said they're disgusted by your behaviour. The only real difference is that your disgust was with actions taken by a broad swathe of people, rather than an individual.
I think the best way you can put it is to say that you felt the poster attacking you was intending to be hurtful, whereas you were intending to defend someone. Without seeing that poster's message, I couldn't say whether that was right or wrong.